Desire to Fall in Love With Myself Again

 

Throughout life, we pour our love into the people around us; parents, siblings, friends, partners… Our sense of worth begins to revolve around how others perceive us... Slowly, and often without realizing it, we start doing everything in our power to be accepted… To be seen... To be loved…

Have you ever found yourself trying so hard to be enough for others that you forgot who you were?

In this need to feel recognized, we fall into the trap of people – pleasing... We do kind things, sometimes from the heart, but often in the hope of being valued... And when those we care for reciprocate, we feel complete... But that feeling becomes addictive... We start depending on others for our happiness…

And while we’re busy counting on them, we cross the invisible line of our own boundaries…

We give them more importance than we give ourselves… Slowly, unknowingly, we hand over the reins of our lives. They start to influence how we think, act, even feel physically, mentally, spiritually… We become so immersed in them that we stop noticing how far we've drifted from our own truth…

We start dressing like them…
Talking like them…
Thinking like them…

When was the last time you made a choice that was truly your own; not shaped by someone else’s opinion?

Here’s a simple but powerful observation: look at any couple married for a decade or more... In most cases, their habits, speech, even worldviews begin to mirror each other... Sometimes it's mutual growth… But often, it’s one partner slowly blending into the other; losing individuality in the name of love or peace…

And then, life throws a moment of silence, a pause where we find ourselves alone, perhaps emotionally or physically… That’s when realization strikes…

We begin to hear accusations:
"You’ve changed…"
"You're acting strange..."
"Stop overthinking, you're being too emotional..."

But haven’t we changed only because we stopped following the script we never wrote?

Those same people who once praised us now find us inconvenient… They appreciated us; as long as we were easy to mold… But the moment we reclaim ourselves, we become “difficult.”

And that’s when the truth breaks through:
We weren’t loved for who we were. We were appreciated for who we became for them.

It hurts... Deeply…
The fortress of love we thought we built crumbles… And it’s not strangers, but our closest who make us feel most alone...

This moment can break you…
Or it can build you…

Some find the courage to gather their scattered pieces, not to return to their old selves, but to recreate themselves, this time with care, clarity, and compassion…
They build new walls not to block others out, but to define where they begin and end… These are walls made of self- respect, personal truth, and love not for the world, but for themselves.

Isn’t it time we give ourselves the love we’ve so freely given to others?

It’s never too late...
No matter your age, no matter your past - the moment you awaken to your truth, it becomes the right time…

You no longer need permission to feel seen…
You no longer need to be accepted or validated…

You just need to be appreciated by yourself…

Because life, after all, is not about becoming someone for others…

It’s about remembering who you were before the world asked you to forget…