Preserving Relationships with Peace: A Journey Beyond Ego and Expectations...

Being human comes with a mixed bag of emotions: love, anxiety, anger, joy, fear and I have lived them all… 

So yes, I’m a perfectly normal human being with all the highs and lows that come with it… 😉😉

I’ve spent most of my life trying to be recognised, appreciated, and understood… Whether it was on the home front or in my professional life, I worked hard…

But what happens when your efforts don’t get the acknowledgment you think they deserve???
Have you ever felt like, no matter how much you do, it’s just not enough in the eyes of others???

I did. And I began to question: was it me or was it just the world???

Of course, I’ve had setbacks and heartbreaks… Many times I felt like I was falling behind, even when I was giving my all... And somewhere along the way, I started to believe I never received what I truly deserved…

But wait; who decides what we deserve???
Is it our own inflated sense of self???
Or is it the silent comparison we constantly make with others???

Let’s be honest don’t we all, at some point, think we are better than the people around us??? We notice what they lack, rarely pausing to acknowledge our own flaws... We expect appreciation, sometimes even false praise, just like we give children when we want to cheer them up; even when they’ve done nothing exceptional…

But do we truly deserve extraordinary recognition if we haven’t done anything extraordinary???

Reality check: most of the time, our dreams are grand, but our effort doesn’t match that intensity…

So yes, I began to question; was I really doing it all for others… or just to validate my own sense of worth???

I have many people around me; some by blood, others by bond. Some I talk to regularly, while others I’ve lost touch with… But do we really forget the people who once mattered???
Don’t we all occasionally think about those who helped us grow or even those who hurt us???

I do…

Some are no longer in this world. Some are far away and busy with their live…. And some… I simply don’t know where they are anymore… But I’ve learned from them all… They had a purpose in my life, and maybe I had one in theirs too…

Are you still holding on to relationships that once shaped you???
Or have you let them go with time and with peace?

I’ve realized that many relationships slip away not because they must end, but because of pride, ego, or strangely fear of losing them... Yes, sometimes, we try to control people because we love them too much...

But if you truly love someone, can you really hold them tight and expect them to stay???
Isn’t love about letting them be who they are even if that means setting them free???

“To love someone, set them free” such a beautiful truth… One that I didn’t understand earlier, but now I do…

We don’t need to do anything exceptional to be loved…
We just need to be our authentic selves…
Let others feel your energy, your presence and let them decide if they want you in their space…

So, I started preserving my relationships differently…

Now, when I see flaws in others, I pause. I no longer explode or react, especially not toward people who don’t even care…
Why waste energy proving your worth to someone who never valued it???

Are you doing good to be noticed???
Or are you doing it to keep your heart clean???

I’ve learned to be kind not for reciprocation, but for my own peace… I’ve started to listen more and react less… We are all walking through our karmic stories, and I believe the least we can do is not add more hurt…

Is it easy??? No…
Is it peaceful??? Absolutely…

So now, I choose silence when there’s disagreement… I choose distance when there’s negativity…
No more questions... No more drama…
Just me, them and whatever balance we can manage to hold…

Because maybe, just maybe… this is what healing really looks like…